On not being silly

Today Xaye announced that he would like to find a book for his grandfather (Foffe) to explain how to "not be silly" after some discussion, we agreed to write him that book ourselves.

Shortly thereafter, Xaye reminded me that when I ask for 'personal space' i should ask kindly, because I had not earlier today and it made him sad and he ran away from me.

That conversation was challenging for me because I feel so crowded sometimes, and my exasperation often overflows. As I reflect I realize that it is really important to me to have a positive relationship with my son. As a 4 year old he is my shadow. Imagine having that experience - of feeling that connected and enjoying one another that much - in a relationship as he grows. (That relationship being a healthy one between a son and mom, not the kind where i continue to trip over him for years to come)

I was gracious in my response and apologized for my tone. Xaye said "mom, you aren't saying your sorry the right way. Just say it".

Duly noted.